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5 Ways A Threesome Can Save (And Change) Your Marriage

If you’re a woman considering having a threesome to save your marriage, read on! This one’s for you. Whether you’ve simply been desiring someone else or find yourself intrigued by the potential of having sex with someone outside of your own long-term relationship, having a threesome can be a total gamechanger.

Man with two sexy ladies getting ready to have sex
In a threesome all you need is to get creative and enjoy!

Couples who have communicated with their partner that a having a threesome is something they would like to experience are often met with shock and dismay. There can be such a stigma attached to the request – and even the act – but often, what this comes down to is a fear of the unknown.

In fact, partners who have had the chance to engage in threesomes with their significant others say it has been the breath of fresh air that their previously sagging marriage was missing. Some woman feel left aside and getting a sense of just being lonely housewives without any excitement and fun in their sexual life. This is when the threesome is like performing CPR, it brought back from the dead something both partners thought was long lost: desire and distance.

Here are 5 reasons why a threesome can truly be a gamechanger for your marriage.

1. Reconnect with your partner

Losing touch with your partner is not the only thing at stake here: in so many cases, what is actually going on is the loss of connectedness with yourself. Threesomes are a great way to re-ignite self-love and self-awareness.

While there are two other bodies in the room with you, one of whom may very well be your partner, having a threesome gives you a chance to explore what turns you on. It’s not only because sometimes you can simply be observing the other two and this in itself is a turn-on, it’s also because such an “out of the ordinary” experience triggers something in your mind.

You feel that all bets are off and this is a safe space to express what is otherwise dormant or inexpressible by you on a daily basis.

2. Talk It Out

The greatest point of difference that couples who partake in threesomes say they experience – almost as a side effect! – is a heightened communication that actually spills over into their daily lives. As anyone in a long-term relationship knows, communication is key to making it work and even keeping those flames of desire fanned. In a threesome, you’re not just talking to each other during the act.

You’re also negotiating, together, the terms of intimacy – what your partner is “okay” to do and what you’re comfortable with – as well as the meaning of having a threesome in the broader context of your marriage.

It’s only when this is thoroughly discussed can couples feel at ease during this seductive dance for three and come out on the other side with a positive experience that actually binds them closer together. In this case, communication in the form of a post-coital discussion or deconstruction is actually incredibly enjoyable and can set the stage for another sexy session through simple reliving and verbal foreplay.

3. Tightly Bonded

Any new experiences we take on solo remain significant markers in our head. They heighten the relationship we have with ourselves. A threesome is no different – the only difference is that when you’re twisting between the sweaty bodies of your partner and a stranger (or even a willing friend), it bonds you tightly to the people you’re with.

There are only three people who will ever know, understand and be able to relive that experience with you and those people are who you ended up having sex with. It can remain a shared secret between just the three of you and any discussions or revelations will always be in the safe confines of the bond you’ve manage to forge together, simply by virtue of exploring each other’s bodies.

Of course, if this includes your partner, you can only imagine how sexy a secret like that can be when shared between just the two of you can be. You may be able to experience a daring side to your partner you never even knew existed. All it took was this unconventional act to bring it out -- but now that you know it's there, neither of you will be able to (or want to) go back

4. What You've Always Wanted To Try...

The point of a threesome in a marriage is so that you and your partner can experience something completely new and look at each other in a light not many people get to experience. Besides the shared memories and shared intimacy and heightened communication (all plus points), there’s a very practical aspect to having a threesome.

There are some positions that would just be way more pleasurable with a third person to engage with. Here, you get to engage with sexual pleasure in ways you may not have though possible before and a third person only helps further that.

Yes, while having a threesome seems to bring out the bolder side in you that can dare to explore their fantasies and erotic edges, this is also an opportunity to get creative and go where your pleasure takes you. So go ahead: dust off your copies of the Kama Sutra (or buy it anew!) and get practicing. Your marriage will thank you for the variety!

5. What Comes Before

For couples who can embrace this enthusiastically and without much pre-judgement, they’ll find that while the experience of having a threesome is unbelievably sexy, the lead-up to the act can be just as sexually stimulating.

If you both into this like an activity between partners, you can take your time finding that third person according to what turns both of you on. Dress up, go to a restaurant and find a potential partner, a beautiful woman who has caught your spouse’s interest and take it from there.

The chase is always half the fun of initiating a new connection, right? Well it’s no different in threesomes. Just being able to watch your partner be aroused by a potential other woman (or man!) can be gratifying in itself. The sense of power it will give the both of you when you find a mate that’s willing to be a part of a threesome can itself be the best kind foreplay.

And because you’re both in on it, there is a sense of equality and honesty that is otherwise missing when someone catches your eyes, sexually speaking.

The Bottom Line?

Two main things to keep in mind here: there are never any guarantees. While you can talk to death about the terms of engagement, enter into a threesome consensually and even have an amazing shared memory, this may just be a gateway to something else like an open marriage.

If this is the case, at least you’ll both be on the same page. But shutting your marriage off to new experiences is sure-fire way to kill it while it’s already dead in the water. So no there’s just one question: ménage a trois, anyone?

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